Read the first post, Self Esteem Defined.
Read the second post, Self Esteem Destroyed.

God Created You
Whether you had a great childhood or
a miserable one, whether you are perceived as attractive or unattractive,
whether you ranked as a genius by IQ level or below average, you are unique.
You have been created, not by chance or evolution, but with purpose and
forethought. You are not a glorified “humanoid” or the result of millions of
years of refining by Mother Nature. You are created in the very image of God
Almighty (Genesis 1:27). As women we are even more unique among God’s creation,
not better just more refined. When you read the creation account in Genesis,
you will find that we were “created” twice. First, God makes man, Adam. He
finds his creation of Adam to be “very good.” But a problem quickly arises
because Adam cannot find a mate that is suitable for him. God causes Adam to
fall into a deep sleep and then takes one of Adam’s ribs and forms woman, Eve.
As women we have been molded by the very hand of God, not once, but twice to
become what God needed us to be. You are special, doubly so! There is nothing
wrong with you. There is nothing about you that God cannot work with and
through. As someone once said, “God don’t make no junk!”
God Restores Your Philosophy
One of the most worthless classes I
took in college was philosophy (apologies to all the philosophy majors reading
this!). To boil it down, I spent a semester studying men throughout history who
tried to figure out the answers to life’s questions, especially the “Big Three”
as our professor liked to call them: Where did I come from? Why am I here? and
Where am I going? What a blessing God’s
word is to us as Christians because He has already defined our philosophy for
us within its pages.
·
Where
Did I Come From? While we have already touched on this, I
wanted to give you a nice, succinct answer to this question. You came directly
from the hand of God. David tells us in Psalm 139:13-15:
For you
formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb. I praise
you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul
knows it very well. My frame was not hidden from you, when I was being made in
secret, intricately woven in the depths of the earth (ESV).
God
did not stop creating after He made the first man and woman. He was an active
participant in your formation and mine. We are His masterpieces; the direct
work of His hands.
·
Why
Am I Here? While the
Bible is full of possible answers to this question, I believe two thoughts sum
up our purpose rather well. First, you are here to glorify God. God says in
Isaiah 43:6-7, “I will say to the north, Give up, and to the south, Do not
withhold; bring my sons from afar and my daughters from the end of the earth,
everyone who is called by my name, whom
I created for my glory, whom I formed and made. (ESV)” I hate to break this
to you, but it’s not all about you, contrary to what society tells us. It’s not
about your happiness, your bank account, your feelings, etc. It is all about
God and His glory. Peter says that our good deeds should glorify God (1 Peter
2:12, ESV). If something is not God honoring, it is not something that we
should focus our time and energy doing.
Second, you are here to complete God’s
task for your life. You mission, should you choose to accept it, is to do the
work God has planned for you (Ephesians 2:10). If you are a mother, your task
is to raise godly children. If you are a wife, your task is to be a respectful
wife. If you are a member of the church, then your task is to build up the
church. If you have a profession, then your task is to be a Christian influence
in the workplace. Throughout different seasons of our life, our work for God
will change. But in the end we should all want to meet God and be able to say
these words to Him, “I glorified you on earth, having accomplished the work that you gave me to do (John 17:4, ESV).”
Notice what that this verse says when we accomplish our work then God will be glorified. When you try to accomplish
someone else’s standard than the glory will not go to God.
·
Where
Am I Going? This is
probably the easiest question to answer with the most implications. If you are
a Christian, then you are going to heaven. Do not lose sight of this goal! When
everything seems to be going wrong and you feel worthless, remember that you
have been bought with a price and your heavenly home awaits you. When Peter is
walking on the water, he is conquering the forces of nature; he is
participating in a miracle. Then he starts to look around and stops focusing on
Jesus. When we lose our focus of going to heaven, it becomes much easier to
fall into Satan’s trap of worldliness and feeling less than. This is not
something to be taken lightly. James reminds us that being a friend with the
world means that you are an enemy of God (James 4:4, ESV). Your search for self-esteem
is not worth your soul.
God Builds Your Foundation
One of my children’s favorite songs
is about the wise man and the foolish man. I’m pretty sure it’s because they
get to say “splat” very loudly! But the truth in that song and parable of Jesus
is exactly what we’ve been talking about for three lessons. If you build your
self-esteem on the shifting sands of society, people, and your feelings, then
your life and your faith are probably going to go “splat” at some point. Why?
Because you have chosen to listen to the world and others about whom you are
and what you should be instead of His word. Listen to what Jesus says in
Matthew 7:24-27:
Everyone then who hears these words of
mine and does them will be like a wise man who built his house on the rock. And
the rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and beat on that house,
but it did not fall, because it had been founded on the rock. And everyone who
hears these words of mine and does not do them will be like a foolish man who
built his house on the sand. And the rain fell, and the floods came, and the
winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell, and great was the fall of
it. (ESV)
If your
self-esteem is based on how you look, clothing size, your children, your
husband, your friends, people in the church, what others think of you, then you
have built your self-worth on shifting sand. All of these things at some point
in your life can and will be taken from you, then what will you have? We must base who we are and what we do on
God’s word or we will not have the abundant life promised by Jesus (John
10:10).
It has been said that it takes five
positive comments to make up for one negative one. Considering all of the
negative comments that women encounter about what we should be, how much time
do you think we need to spend listening to God to counteract those destructive
messages? I would love to give all of you a magical pill that would make it
where you would never compare yourself to anyone again, where you would always
feel right about yourself, where the past would never get you down, but that’s
not the way it works. If you want to base your self-esteem on God’s foundation,
then you have to be in the word, constantly, daily. Until His word becomes what
you hear in your mind the minute a negative thought about yourself enters it.
Until you feel confident enough to serve others without thinking about you.
Until you do not hide your weaknesses but use them for His glory. Until you
complete your work for the Lord. Please use the scriptures I have referenced in
these posts and any other ones you come across in your Bible study to jot
down for your edification. Memorize them and use them to battle the world.
Now read the last post in my self-esteem series, Self-Esteem Demonstrated.
Still being worked on by God in the treehouse,
Chelli
Now read the last post in my self-esteem series, Self-Esteem Demonstrated.
Still being worked on by God in the treehouse,
Chelli
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