5 Benefits Teaching from Rest Brought to Our Homeschool
Whenever you start a new venture in life it’s
always helpful to do a cost-benefit analysis. What will be my cost compared to
the benefit I gain? When I started going down the scholé path and learning
about the concept of teaching from rest, I definitely had to decide if the cost
of my time and energy to learn and implement a new teaching philosophy with my
children and in our homeschool was worth it. I can definitively say, after about
18 months of schooling this way, it absolutely is!
Peace
of Mind
I’ve written before
about how a homeschool crisis a couple of years ago started me looking
for a better way to run our homeschool. I came from a place of doubt and worry
to one of having peace of mind about what my children are learning and the
direction that I want to take with their future education. Teaching from rest
helped me to realize that some of my wishes for their education were unattainable
(teaching them everything they’d ever need to know) and unrealistic (make them
love and enjoy every subject). Now I can have peace of mind about our
homeschool because I know I want them to have feasted on truth, beauty, and
goodness when our time of home education ends. I don’t feel the burden to cover
every base, but to make sure the bases I do cover are done well.
Before scholé the
learning environment in our home was a pretty tense one, lots of reminders to
hurry, exasperation on my part, and frustration from the children. Now that we
have started to reap the benefits of teaching from rest, the learning process
has taken on an entirely different tone. Most days we can all sit back and
enjoy the ride of learning. We can wallow in the process of discovery and
discussion. My children and I are relearning how to learn together in a way
that feels natural and organic while still having structure. It doesn’t mean
that I still don’t fall into bad patterns at times or that we all sit around
and hold hands while reviewing Latin vocabulary, but the tenure of our days has
changed for the better.
Confidence
in My Ability
The most often heard
comment I hear when people find out that I used to be a public school teacher
is, “Homeschooling must be so easy for you!” Yeah, right. Give me a room of eighth
grade students, hand me a history textbook, and I’m your girl. Place my own
child in front of me who’s struggling with math or learning to read, and I’m
just as terrified as any other homeschool parent. Teaching from rest has helped
me to become more confident in my ability to teach my own child. Not because I
have a super human teaching power now, but because it helped me focus on the
spiritual Power that I have to fill in the gaps where my own confidence falls
short. Too many times I forgot that this is not a solitary endeavor, it is a
joint work between myself and God. I bring all I have to the altar where He
takes it and turns my meager ability into something great within my children.
Customization
in Education
Once I let go of my
doubts and fears, found my confidence, and began enjoying the process of
learning again, scholé really opened my eyes to the possibility of stepping
outside the box and teaching my children as individuals, or in Charlotte Mason’s
words, teaching my children as “the born persons” that they are. The process of
customizing our children’s education is where homeschooling really shines above
and beyond what public and private schools can offer. Many times we let doubts
and lack of confidence tie us to standards and keeping up with the Homeschool
Jones’ instead of teaching the children we have. An education of rest and
leisure doesn’t mean less rigorous, but it definitely means more connected to
the child.
Understanding
My Role
I once felt all of
the pressures on my shoulders to make sure my children were successes. I mean,
if they never learn about George Washington or how to balance a chemical
equation there is no one to blame for an educational oversight except you. This
pressure manifested itself in how I taught. It was very much a system of “listen
to me because I am your teacher” instead of learning alongside my children and
listening to what they had to say as well. As teaching from rest became more
entrenched in my thoughts I slowly found myself taking time to follow rabbit
trails with the kids, to listen to what they thought Emily Dickinson was trying
to convey in her poem, or just to enjoy a good book together. I dropped the
authoritative draconian model and adopted a more mentor and fellow learner
model which definitely made our days more restful and leisurely.
I feel like I need
to add a caveat at the end of this post to keep things real. It is a very rare
day {like maybe once} that I find all
of these things in our homeschool at one time. Let’s face it, life happens,
kids have attitudes, mom has hormones and most days I fall so far short that I
would be disqualified from a long jump competition. The freeing aspect of
restful teaching is that it no longer burdens me as much as it did. I keep
working at it. I keep reaching for that goal. My encouragement comes in seeing the
fruit of my pursuit in our homeschool. So please don’t think that I have it all
together and our homeschool runs like a well oiled scholé machine. These are
the benefits I have found from a poor implementation of the ideal. I can’t even
imagine what a homeschool looks like that does it really well!
Curious what my
fellow Everyday Scholé bloggers have discovered to be the biggest benefits to
them from restful teaching? Just click the links below to find out.
What changes in your homeschool philosophy have
brought about the biggest rewards?
Let me know in the comments.
Chelli