The past two Mama Mondays I focused on the reward and punishment part of the discipline program in our home. This week I want to look at what you do to focus on those character flaws that seem specific to each child.
example, Magpie is my liar and my quitter. I’m not trying to disparage my
child, but she is. I have a natural tendency not to trust what she tells me and
she almost never finishes a job that I give her to do, so I’m really wanting to
focus on that with her specifically.
is my whiner and my bad attitude kid. She can whine and complain with the best
of them when asked to do something that is not on her agenda for the day. This
is what I’m trying to work on with her.
of them, I want to work on not fighting with each other!
To add a
little extra incentive besides our usual method of reward and punishment, I
found this idea via a friend on Facebook’s Pinterest page: money jars.
girl has her name on a glass jar (which are kept on the top shelf of the
I get a
roll of quarters each week and put $5 worth in each jar.
third jar is my jar.
Magpie lies or quits working besides the consequences on our family rules
chart, I also take a quarter out of her jar and put it in my jar. When Chipette
whines or complains, I get a quarter for each time. When they fight with each
other, I get a quarter from both of their jars. See…I already got some money in
end of the week, they can spend whatever is left in their jar when we go
shopping on Friday. Or they can save it. Or whatever. But it is their money to
do with as they like.
live for this and it has made it easier on me to focus on specific character
weaknesses. Plus as an added benefit, whenever they ask for something I say,
“Do you have enough jar money to buy it?”
is in my jar I just put back into the $10 for the next week. So if I have $2.50
in my jar, then I only have to get $7.50 in quarters.
they start consistently keeping all of their quarters, then we will work on
something else. Goodness knows that with kids if it’s not one thing, it’s
strong character and good kids one quarter at a time in the tree house,